Tips for raising children

  Discipline in the family

It is important to pay attention to discipline within every family, and to set limits for children’s behaviour, as this helps increase their ability to choose acceptable behaviours, teach them self-control, and control them.

 Setting limits also helps prepare children to become responsible adults. Discipline includes a set of rules that are placed in the home Such as: allowing watching television after completing homework, not allowing beatings for any reason, or not allowing anyone to be mocked.

Setting certain penalties helps increase order and discipline in the home, such as the use of the initial warning penalty, then the time-out penalty, or the punishment by depriving children of privileges or favourite things, as many parents apply a penalty to discipline the child, and ignore it When a child repeats the same mistake again, this is a common mistake in raising children.

The practice of maternity and paternity

The responsibility of parents increases in light of the era in which we live, especially with the increase in the requirements of life, so many parents neglect the importance of placing the issue of developing the personality of their children and raising them properly at the top of their priorities, and some distinguished parents dedicate time to parenting, and consciously plan to raise their children Good, every mother and father should master the concept of sacrifice, and put his child’s needs and priorities above everything, with the need not to neglect themselves at the same time. When planning the week's agenda, the child and his or her needs must be the primary focus of parents, with time to be spent with the children away from work and obligations.

Despite the importance of spending quality time with children, many working parents find it difficult to find enough time to spend with their children, knowing that this is what children need from their parents and what makes them happy, for example, parents can wake up before their scheduled time to be able to eat breakfast with their children or take a walk with them after dinner, and a whole day can be selected to spend with the children to be chosen with them, and make them determine how to spend that day, and any activities that help communication between parents and children can be practised, such as: making popcorn together, playing with them, and other activities Simple activities that leave a mark on children and are always remembered, and it is important to know that children who do not get attention often do some bad behaviour; To get their parents' attention, it's important to spend time with the kids and to let them know how important they are.

• It is important to encourage the child to dialogue, talk, and increase his ability to express himself from the early stages of his life, which increases his ability to communicate and interact with others in the future, and on other hand, parents must listen to the child, discuss it, and avoid shouting at him at all times. This helps to control and direct it purposefully, and if parents ignore the discussion with the child and continue to shout at them, this will affect the child's feeling of disrespect or lack of care.
• Parents should provide an opportunity for the child to discover his own interests, by allowing him to choose what he prefers from a set of choices, rather than obligating him to choose one option by the parents, for example, parents can help the child choose his clothes while allowing him to choose his clothes that he prefers Wearing it, it can also be allowed to play with his friends or play with his own games without the presence of his parents, and this helps to build his independent personality over time, and to achieve this it is important to provide a range of options for the child, such as providing 2-3 options for younger children; This is to allow them to choose what they prefer without placing much responsibility on them, and the number of options increases as the child's age increases.

Reward children within reason

Parents should encourage the child to help others, bearing in mind that they should not be rewarded for every good work he does; Because this leads the child to associate the good work with obtaining a reward, and when he is not rewarded after any good work, he will learn that the feeling of satisfaction when doing good work is in itself a reward, but at the same time he should not be deprived of rewards at all, and rewarded in some situations such as performing a work He needs great effort, or excel in his studies, as rewarding the child from time to time is a distinctive way for parents to show their gratitude for the distinguished actions of the child.

Firmness while disciplining children

Sometimes parents may neglect to deal firmly when raising children, or they may skip some responsible rules when maintaining order because of their love for them, but they do not know that they may harm their children unintentionally. Children who walk according to clear and firm rules and boundaries are more responsible, And more able to make the right decisions, and the formation of relationships with others, clear rules lead to discipline.

Other tips for raising children

Know your needs and limits as a parent

Parents, as family leaders, should set a set of realistic expectations for themselves and their children, and stay away from idealism, and they should take their weaknesses into account, to be able to raise their children properly. They should take time off from their role in raising children and take care of their special matters that make them happy. This is not selfish on their part; Because they deserve their own time, and their happiness will reflect on the happiness of their children, and make them an example to follow.

Apologize when you make a mistake

Parents often impose their authority on children, explaining that their experience and wisdom in life exceed that of children, except that they may make mistakes in some situations, and parents should admit this and apologize, and some educators have indicated that children are fully aware that their parents are not ideal, and that they They need attention and respect, to be able to prepare good children.

Avoid excessively harsh words

It is important to deal firmly with the child when he makes a mistake, but at the same time to stay away from excessive cruelty, whether in treatment, harsh words, or loud voices. Many studies have shown that excessive cruelty towards a child may lead to counterproductive results, as it becomes The child's behaviour is worse than it was.

Parents' concern for their health

Parents need to take good care of their psychological and physical health, as parents often ignore these matters when the child is born, and they should take care of themselves so that they can overcome any health problems in the future. It is also important to maintain a strong relationship between the spouses to preserve the safety of the child.

Determine the purpose of raising a child

All parents strive to raise their children in a way that makes them distinguished at school, productive, able to form social relationships with others, responsible and independent in the future, and they also seek to develop their emotional aspects and make them care more about their health. However, most parents do not follow the correct practices to achieve this goal, In this, educators Siegel and Bryson point out in their book (The Whole-Brain Child) that parents help their children survive without caring about helping them develop and thrive, and to overcome this it is important to maintain calm, and avoid Frustration, as they have bad consequences for the child's brain and health, and it is worth noting that building good relationships with the child will help achieve the basic goals in raising children.

Allow children to make their own choices

It is important to allow children to make their own choices, including choosing their means of punishment, planning to organize their daily schedule, and providing opportunities for them to set their own goals. This makes children more disciplined and focused, and more able to make good decisions in the future. This will make them less likely to break the rules. It is important to allow children to choose their preferred activities, and to increase the freedom for them to make their own choices as they age; Because that will make them more successful and happier in the future.

Attention to enhance their confidence in their appearance

It is important to maintain a healthy body image, whether for females or males, and one study showed that a third of 13-year-old girls are not satisfied with their body shape and weight, and another study showed that 69% of mothers are also dissatisfied with their body shape and express their dissatisfaction in front of children, which is reflected in children’s dissatisfaction with their bodies if they gain weight, and the following are some practices that enhance children’s confidence in the health of their bodies:

• Focus on the health benefits of sports more than its role in maintaining the appearance of the body.
• The focus is on developing children's skills and personalities rather than on their appearance.
• Doing sports with the rest of the family.
• Avoid talking in front of children about feeling guilty about eating a certain type of food.

Sharing parents' family history with children

Sharing parents’ family history contributes to children’s success and happiness in the future. Studies have shown the effect of children’s knowledge about their family history in increasing the ability to achieve self-esteem. Among the things that children can know are diseases that one or both parents suffered in the past, and some Situations that parents were exposed to when they were young, these things help to strengthen family ties and make children more flexible.

Helping children express themselves

Older children have the ability to express themselves and what they need, while many studies related to child development have shown that younger children lack this because they do not have a sufficient set of vocabulary that qualifies them to express themselves and their emotions correctly, as children begin to understand their feelings and emotions, such as fear, frustration, or disappointment during the age range that ranges from 2-5 years, so it is possible for parents to help their children express how they feel, for example, when it rains, one of the parents can say: (It is unfortunate not being able to play outside because it is raining), it helps the child to express his feelings.

Minimize distraction

Parents may do some activities while spending their time with their children, such as browsing email or social networking sites, and this behaviour is unacceptable. Educators indicated that children do not need to provide them with 100% care throughout the day, but in return, parents should direct their full attention and attention to children when they are with them without any distractions.

be polite

Children learn many things by observing the behaviour of adults and trying to imitate it themselves, such as how to interact with others. ), so that the children learn these phrases and apply them themselves, and in general, if the son sees that his parents treat everyone including family members or other teachers with respect and politeness, the children are likely to do so as well.